Archive | October, 2012

Dita Von Teese article on beauty etc

24 Oct

I was reading the Into the Gloss interview with Dita Von Teese yesterday. I thought it was hugely inspiring and great to hear about her love for red lipstick and self expression. Particularly loved the bit about considering what you feel beautiful.

Make-up, beauty, self confidence is really what we make it, what we want, how we want to please ourselves and our partners, and how we express our interests, personalities and tastes to the world.

Have a read. I’d love to hear other peoples thoughts –


Photo taken from the Into the Gloss interview.

Sex Scribbled on my Skin: body politics and sexuality

3 Oct

A very good post form the UQ Women’s Collective zine – Wom*news

A life unexamined

Whether it’s in the way we dress, the gender we perform or the shape we are, our bodies shape the way we think about ourselves and the way that society thinks about us. Our bodies are texts to be read, with meanings and values and rules scribbled onto our skin. Some are personal, and some are political. Some are our own choice, while others are dictated by outside influences.

When it comes to sexuality, they way our bodies are read play a central role in what is seen as appropriate. Who is allowed to be sexual, or even required to be? Who is not allowed to show their sexuality? In what contexts are our bodies acceptable?

Despite sex being so naturalised in our society, there are still a multitude of rules imposed on different kinds of bodies, allowing them sexuality or denying it. Simple acts like kissing a partner in…

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3 Oct

Writing. It is my passion. But sometimes the creativity, the thoughts rushing into your head, doesn’t seem to flow. Then writing seems like work, almost like a chore, if you have to. A mentally taxing day at work, time away from research material or other things that inspire seem to dull the creative juices.

I am currently working on a novel – an historical lesbian romance and adventure set in India in the 18th and 19th centuries – and I am currently not feeling the creativity flowing for my story. I have been intensely researching, reading thesis’, books, papers, Wikipedia entries and webpages for a couple of months now. And thoughts of scenes, dialogue, the back story, timeline or biographical information usually pops into my head easily.

But, not at the moment. My work in a university has been particularly busy, intense and stressful of late. And we had a long weekend over which I didn’t give my story a single meaningful thought. And, my creativity has been focused on my blog and poems lately. So my poor story and my research for it has gone by the way side.

I know that spark will return, I just need to clear my brain of other information, get the blogging out of the way and sit down and read and think and compose intensely for a while. After all, they say, a writer should write everyday, something I am not doing at the moment, but will endeavor to do.


3 Oct

What gives you confidence?

For me it is combination of the following –

– Knowledge itself and being equipped with the relevant knowledge to give an opinion and carry through with an act
– A good level of self esteem
– A healthy level of indifference and concern over what others may think – in short, a concern for what others think, but not always letting them influence you
– A sense of acceptance and acknowledgement that I look good (make-up, hair, dress) in my eyes, my partner’s eyes and others around me (family, friends, colleagues and strangers)
– Knowing that my work and myself are appreciated and acknowledged

Confidence and knowledge are power, they say. I agree

Wearing my docs

2 Oct

Yesterday, after a long absence, I wore my Doc Martin boots and it gave me such a sense of self expression.

I hadn’t worn my docs, especially with a dress, for about four or more years – many factors influenced my not wearing my favored boots – mostly a change in my fashion style to a more vintage styled look. But no matter what they were, a necessity to wear comfortable shoes to work, especially as I was walking to and from the bus stop to work, bought me back to them.

I had changed from ballet flats, dresses and pants to black docs, socks and a dress. For the last few years my style had grown more vintage, more “normal” and projecting a more subtle image of myself. And I had felt as many others wore similar clothes that I had lost a little of my own difference and unique image.

By wearing my docs, I felt I could project an obvious signifier that I am different and that I am not like all others. This gave me a sense of confidence too. And, as this is not an overly common look like it had been in the 1990’s and 2000’s (I had worn my docs from 2002 – 2007), there is a sense of self expression and difference. And I notice the punk and cool alternative girls wearing their docs with skirts and dresses as they stand out amongst the other girls in uni.

And now I have come back to this look and I will wear this along with my vintage style outfits. I like the kick it gives me.

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