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Asperwomen – Thoughts

23 May

After posting Asperwomen: Adult Women with Asperger Syndrome. Moving towards a female profile of Asperger Syndrome, a reblog of a post from taniaannmarshall’s blog, along with my comments including my personal experiences, I wondered if I had revealed too much. Had I said too much about the similarity of my traits and experiences to those exhibited and experienced by women diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome? I certainly did not wish to diminish those who had been diagnosed, I was discussing my own experience. I had revealed a lot. But it did feel a little affirming and in a way an embracing of these traits. Perhaps writing from the perspective that I did, I expressed it in a way that normalised these traits and didn’t make it a point of negative difference. Perhaps also it is the way that traits are perceived that changes whether these traits are positive or negative. For example, the ability to absorb great amounts of information and the thirst for knowledge. These traits can definitely be seen as good and positive, especially in an academic / education environment.

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Asperwomen: Adult Women with Asperger Syndrome. Moving towards a female profile of Asperger Syndrome

23 May

An informative list of traits associated with Asperger’s Syndrome in women. Below, are my comments (and personal experience) I posted.

Thanks for a really informative list of traits / characteristics of Asperger’s Syndrome in women. I have not been diagnosed, and I don’t know if I would be diagnosed, but many of the traits describe how I work, see things and react emotionally. Definitely intense interests, good long term memory, perfectionism, emotionally aware and vulnerable to other’s emotions, feeling different to others applies to me. When I was younger (in primary and high school) I certainly felt different to others and I wanted to be like more “popular” people and I strived for that, but could never get there. I had my special interests and friends that were like minded so that helped. When I got to university I felt less pressured to be like others and I felt more comfortable with the feeling of being different. During postgraduate studies, I started to find myself – I embraced alternative music, lifestyles and fashions and I felt like I belonged, especially amongst a loosely collected group of people who celebrated their difference to the mainstream and made the point that they were different to others. I became alot more extroverted and socialised more. It was like I went through the stereotypical teenage years in my early twenties. During doctoral studies I travelled overseas. Being in a foreign city without family, friends and people who knew me, was a watershed experience, I shed something then. Back in my home country, over the next few years I went through great emotional turmoil, but I realised and discovered my same sex attraction (which had started with my fascination with an actress in a TV cop show in that foreign city). I eventually came out and I feel now, a few years later and a six year relationship, that I know who I am, and why I am different, but also I feel I can relate to a lot more people. While coming out (and going through depression / anxiety and chronic fatigue), a counsellor mentioned Asperger’s Syndrome to me. She said that many of the things I described fitted the traits / symptoms of this syndrome. Perhaps I was going through a transition stage where I was “overcoming” these Asperger’s traits and my personality and the way I saw things was changing. Thank you for a great article, and inspiring me to write about my experience.

Tania A. Marshall, M.Sc.

 

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Aspienwomen : Adult Women with Asperger Syndrome. Moving towards a female profile of Asperger Syndrome. This blog has been viewed more than 500,000 times since I initially wrote it and was the inspiration for my second book, released August 29th, 2015, Foreword by Dr. Shana Nichols. and now an international bestseller. I am pleased to announce this book just received a 2016 IPPY eLit Gold Medal award in the ‘Women’s Issues’ category. This book is available at http://www.aspiengirl.com, Amazon, the Australian Council for Educational Research (ACER) and other fine bookstores.

Tania is available for fee-based in-person or Skype remote assessments, consultations, problem-solving sessions, intervention, and support. She also works regularly with a variety of professionals in many countries, in the areas of referrals and assisting individuals to obtain and/or receive an assessment, diagnosis…

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